What do you expect from newlyweds when you give a wedding gift?
A thank-you note, of course. Maybe an appreciative hug.
Certainly not an email questioning your generosity – and asking for a bigger gift.
But that’s exactly what a British woman claims she received from a bridal couple after giving them a £100 ($144) check.
According to the wedding guest, the couple’s email said: “We were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received.”
The guest added that the bride was a former co-worker and the phrase “your own position” was likely a reference to inheritance the guest recently received.
Sidenote: We know about this outrageous behavior because the alleged victim of the slight posted her story in an online parenting forum called Mumsnet. I feel the need to say “alleged victim” because, well, it’s the internet, and this story just seems custom-made to stir up digital buzz.
The “gobsmacked” guest asked forum users for advice on how to respond to the bride’s email. Predictably, most respondents urged harsh measures – cancel the check, write a blunt response and BCC all your mutual friends. Stuff like that.
In the end, the slighted guest chose a pretty classy response. She sent an email that simply said, “I assume this was some sort of mistake.”
I like that. I agree with Joel Osteen’s advice: “When someone is rude to you, keep a smile on your face. When you stay on the high road and keep your joy, you take away their power.”
How would you have responded?